How to Break into a Tight Crowd to Talk to The Person you Want

How to break into a tight crowd and find a way to talk to the person you want, elegantly and respectfully.

The woman you’ve decided you MUST meet is wearing no Whatzit? Can’t find the host for the Whoozat technique? To make matters worse, she’s deep in conversation with a group of her friends. Seems quite hopeless that you will maneuver a meeting, doesn’t it? You can’t just say, “Excuse me, I just thought I’d eavesdrop in and say ‘Hello.’ ” as Leil Lowndes said, the author of "How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships" book.

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No obstacle blocks the resolute politician, who always has a trick or ten up his or her sleeve. A politico would resort to the “Eavesdrop In” technique. Eavesdropping, of course, conjures images of clandestine activities—wiretapping, Watergate breakins, or spies skulking around in the murky shadows. Eavesdropping has historical precedent with politicians so, in a pinch, it naturally comes to mind.

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At parties, stand near the group of people you wish to infiltrate. Then wait for a word or two you can use as a wedge to break into the group. “Excuse me, I couldn’t help overhearing that you . . .” and then whatever is relevant here. For example “I couldn’t help overhearing your discussion of Bermuda. I’m going there next month for the first time. Any suggestions?”

Now you are in the circle and can direct your comments to your intended.

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